Disclaimer: I’m a woman(Duh). Never wanted to be anything else. I’m not a parent, wife, or girlfriend. So take the rest of this post with a grain of salt. Also, this may be a long post and it’s clear I was rambling…Sorry đ¤Śđ˝ââď¸
Sooooo,
While I do feel like black women don’t get the credit they deserve, something hit me, while talking to a good guy friend of mine.
Are we, society, women,men, parents, grandparents, village members, etc teaching young boys who eventually become men, their worth?
Let’s think about. Everyone is familiar with the Cindrella fairytale.
Sidebar: Brandy Ă Whitney Houston’s performance is thee only Cinderella and Fairy Godmother duo we acknowledge over here. Do NOT debate me.
Back to the discussion at hand, boys, men, their worth. Where is their Disney Prince story? I’m not trying to fight for equal rights in this post, just want to open the dialogue, cousin.
My homeboy and I were texting in reference to his relationship and he texted me, “at least she texted back”. Now under normal circumstances, that may have not been such a thorn in my side, but mannnn, that shit rubbed me all wrong. “At least”. đŁđŁ “AT LEAST” Cousin, do you read me, at least?! Noooooooooo, church! Not okay.
The issue I have with that statement lies in the word “least”. Why do we think that the least of something is the standard or even acceptable? Okay, so you’re probably thinking “what’s the problem?” The problem is, had this been one of my girlfriends/sister friends, I would’ve stopped traffic, declared a state of emergency and wanted to cancel the relationship that would’ve resulted in my girl believing that “at least he texted me back” was okay. FOH âđ˝. The subsequent conversation from me to her would be something like, “Sis, you are a Queen. Remember who you are and whose you are. Know your worth! You don’t want no negro that got you feelin’ like you need to be grateful for his least…” That’s just a small part of the continual conversation that would take place.
My question, where is that conversation or support for men? Here’s the thing, I can easily pour into my fellow sister like that, but do men have that capability? Are we telling our young men their worth and value at an early age, so that over time, they, too, can pour into their homeboy? I know men’s emotions are not set up like that of a woman, however, I still believe! I am notorious for pouring into my guy friends. I’m that friend.
Society will tell a woman what she isn’t supposed to stand for in a relationship sense, make no mistake, shit is rocky, so none of this is Bible. We all have come in contact with a woman who has dealt with a septic tank’s worth of shit from a man, so I’m not discounting that experience. Men have to put up with a lot of crazy from women, too. I’m fair! However, the biggest difference is, I find women have a great support system, breathing and pouring life into them.
On a larger scale, our men, black men, are easy prey to a society that wasn’t made with them in mind. I play around with the idea that if we told our black men they are kings and they have value before they found themselves in trouble maybe they could circumvent certain obstacles in life. That’s a tall order to think about but you get my drift….at least I hope so đŹ
I am just rambling because I have a brother, nephews and one day, with the Lord’s help, I may have a son and I want him, them and you too, Cousin, to know that it’s imperative that men know their worth. So if no one has told you before, prayerfully, I’m one of many, YOU HAVE WORTH!
With Worth,
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